A fellow student remembers Amir

The following was shared by a first-Year Ed. Student at Chabad at Stanford’s memorial service for Amir, March 29, 2004.
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Amir was in psychology with a dozen other students – I’m in the Philosophy section…so I seek out people to debate with – and I always found ample discussion material with Amir – one of the first conversations I had with Amir was about technology. He believed that technology could solve all of the worlds’ problems. It was interesting and frustrating, but I think I came to understand where he was coming from. Amir had a really deep faith in human nature – in people’s ability to be rational, open, humble, unafraid to confront other people. He had a real idealism and compassion, and in many ways, he was the ideal philosopher – open to new ideas, while holding to certain core ideas and principles.

I was thinking he should have been a philosophy program – but if he had done that, I wouldn’t have gotten into the program and benefitted from our conversations. I know so many people have been touched by him.

A fellow student remembers Amir

A fellow graduate student shared the following at Chabad at Stanford’s memorial for Amir, held March 29, 2004.
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I’m waiting for the alarm clock to ring and have this be over; The whole thing hasn’t hit me.

I want to read a song by Jackson brown – “For a Dancer” – it’s a song for someone who has died. I never thought I’d be singing it now.

Keep a fire burning in your eye
Pay attention to the open sky
You never know what will be coming down
I don’t remember losing track of you
You were always dancing in and out of view
I must have thought you’d always be around
Always keeping things real by playing the clown
Now you’re nowhere to be found

I don’t know what happens when people die
Can’t seem to grasp it as hard as I try
It’s like a song I can hear playing right in my ear
That I can’t sing
I can’t help listening
And I can’t help feeling stupid standing ’round
Crying as they ease you down
‘Cause I know that you’d rather we were dancing
Dancing our sorrow away
(Right on dancing)
No matter what fate chooses to play
(There’s nothing you can do about it anyway)

Just do the steps that you’ve been shown
By everyone you’ve ever known
Until the dance becomes your very own
No matter how close to yours
Another’s steps have grown
In the end there is one dance you’ll do alone

Keep a fire for the human race
Let your prayers go drifting into space
You never know what will be coming down
Perhaps a better world is drawing near
And just as easily it could all disappear
Along with whatever meaning you might have found
Don’t let the uncertainty turn you around
(The world keeps turning around and around)
Go on and make a joyful sound

Into a dancer you have grown
From a seed somebody else has thrown
Go on ahead and throw some seeds of your own
And somewhere between the time you arrive
And the time you go
May lie a reason you were alive
But you’ll never know

Always Hearing About Amir

I didn’t know Amir. In fact I never even met him.

My cousin, David Virenius, was Amir’s roommate in New York. Though I never knew Amir personally, I learned an awful lot about him just by the way my cousin spoke about him.

I heard so much about how kind and smart and motivated this “Amir” was. It was obvious that my cousin had a tremendous amount of respect and admiration for this person.

When David told me that Amir had died in a car accident, I couldn’t help but be moved by the loss of someone who was so loved and admired by so many people.

I just wanted to have the chance to say how incredible I think he must have been to be able to affect me, someone he had never even met.

I wish that I had had the chance to meet him.

My condolences to all who knew him on your immeasurable loss,

Ryan Paulson

“Ultimate Mourns the Loss of Amir Lopatin”

Posted by the editors of DISCFORUM.COM, a website dedicated to Ultimate:

ULTIMATE MOURNS THE LOSS OF AMIR LOPATIN

We would like to note that it is generally felt that no one has done more for ultimate in Manhattan than Amir, as a founder of NYCPUL and as an excellent model of fair play and sportsmanship. We join with Amir’s family in their grief.

I’m So Sorry

I was very shocked to learn of this sad news just before the Passover Sedar. Amir was one of my first friends at Brown. I remember girls chasing him around at the freshman Hillel retreat. We had the same Freshman Advisor, Prof. Jacobson and enjoyed reading Jewish fiction together, taking walks and having great talks. While we were only close for a brief period of time in college, I was always so delighted to see him around campus and particularly at Hillel. I always knew I had a friend there, especially on those lonely Jewish Holidays when you wanted to be home. I would no doubt be greeted with a witty remark and a twinkling eye. And would leave the encounter with a new revelation on something of import, as well as a laugh. To a great young man who touched many; you will be missed.

NYCPUL Remembers Amir from Doug

I am shocked and saddened to learn of Amir’s passing. He was an all around great guy who will truly be missed. The NYCPUL league he created brought summer league ultimate to Manhattan for the first time in years. It was so much fun to play in the league and it wouldn’t have happened without Amir’s vision, dedication and hard work. Amir worked long and hard to create NYCPUL and it would be a shame if this league ended.

I was under the impression that when Amir left town, someone else had taken over the running of NYCPUL and that there would be a league this summer. Whether this is the case or not, I think the best way to honor Amir is to keep NYCPUL going and to rename the league in his honor.

Doug

Baruch Dayan Emet

Although I did not have the pleasure of knowing this amazing, brilliant, athletic and caring man – my thoughts are with Amir’s family and friends. One can only imagine the life he lived by the photos displaying a life lived to the fullest and the thoughts describing a friend one would be lucky to have.

NYCPUL Remembers Amir from Keith

Amir was the kindest person one could know.

He deserves to be honored.

We could make tee-shirts and a custom disc in his memory. They could be the basis for a special tournament or a league.

I’m in.

Keith

NYCPUL Remembers Amir from Billy

Amir has always been so enthusiastic……I think that one of the best things I could say about him, about anyone I would play with, is that he never got angry with people, never took it personally if a call was made against him, or didn’t go his way. I felt like he always gave me his best game.

–Billy

NYCPUL Remembers Amir from Rocky

It is a terrible loss for the Ultimate community. No one had done more in recent years to raise the level of play and visibility of Ultimate in Manhattan than Amir. His enthusiasm and passion for the game was virtually unrivaled both on and off the field. Though he was an occasional thorn in my side, and may have had an even lower opinion of me, he certainly was a rose in the field of Ultimate personalities. I am certain this next Saturday’s game will begin with an unreturned pull and a moment of silence. And the initial disc should remain where it landed for the first point of the first game. The anguish that his family and those that were close to him must feel is unfathomable. Perhaps, in time, they might find some small comfort knowing how this will be shared by some of those that did know him. So I echo Josh’s call for a tribute from those that wish to write something in his honor.

-Rocky